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While You Were Sleeping (1995)
IMDB rating: 6.40
Plot: Lucy’s life consists of constant lonliness that is until she saves Peter’s life. Now she is a part of his family, and with a strong heart and fate on her side, others begin to realize what a terrific person she is, especially Jack, Peter’s brother. An extraordinarily true-to-life sequence of events begin to take place as Lucy and Jack become closer and learn more about each other and themselves than one would ever expect from such coincidental, yet believable events.
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Directors: Turteltaub Jon
Actors: Pullman Bill,Gallagher Peter,Boyle Peter,Warden Jack,Bernard Jason,Rispoli Michael,Cusack Dick,Morris Thomas Q.,Comedy,Romance,
Is now the right time to lose my virginity?
I know I know, there’s never a "right" or "set" time that is made for us to lose our virginities, well except for our honeymoon nights and stuff like that if you believe in that.
But I’m about to be 20 years old this April 2010, I’m a female, and I’m still a virgin.
[virgin in the case that i've never had vaginal intercourse. i've done everything else though, in terms of foreplay and what not]
I’m proud of myself for making it this long, and I used to hold it extremely high.
I’ve been dating since i was about 15 years old, I’ve had 5 boyfriends, and all of them have been from (the shortest) 8 months to (the longest) 1 year and 2 months.
All the guys I dated, when I was dating them, happened to be virgins as well, so no pressure.
Now however, about 9 months ago me and my boyfriend of 1year and 2 months broke up with me.
for a long story short, i was and still am absolutely heartbroken over it. I really thought he was The One. and he sure let me believe I was right too.
Anyways, I now find myself….regretting, that I didn’t lose my virginity to him.
I’ve never been the one to want to "wait until marriage" to lose it, I’ve always been more like when I felt I was old enough, an age I’d be proud to tell my future children so they could try to live by my example….and when I was truly in love.
and I know I’m young, but I truly know I love/loved/always will love my last boyfriend.
But like I was saying, I regret not losing it to him because at least in my heart I would know that I lost my virginity to someone that meant alot to me. and regardless of what happened between us, I know I meant alot to him as well.
But now as I’m trying to move on, I find myself refraining from dating guys because it’s very rare that guys my age are still virgins, so in that case here I go having to explain to some guy about why I’m not going to have sex with him and have to deal with him not wanting to committ blah blah. whatever.
[funny story, this guy that liked me all throughout highschool, I finally gave him a chance, we hung out for about a week and werent even officially DATING and one night I had to fight him off me for hours denying his request to have sex. needless to say HE never called/texted after I left the next morning. I didn't lose any sleep over that jerk though.]
anyways, now I’m talking to this guy….who I don’t know HOW many people he’s slept with, but I know it’s a….decent amount? haha.
and for some reason, where i normally would care, i really don’t anymore.
I just need someone to help me get my mind off of my last ex because it’s miserable living down the street from him and seeing him and his new girlfriend who TOTALLY isnt right for him all the time together. and him pretending like i dont exist.
This new guy I’m talking to….I really don’t see us being together for the long run…like getting married and stuff, and usually if I don’t see potential there I don’t even waste my time….but he’s really cute…and he doesn’t make me FORGET about my ex, but he gives me something to focus more of my time on so thinking about my ex isnt always in the front of my mind.
Idk…I wouldn’t mind having sex with this new guy….after a while of dating him and what not….i say like….3-6 months if it lasts that long??…then have sex….
but….seeing as how i’m already saying i dont think it’ll last….i’m scared to lose my virginity to him, since i have always seen it as a big deal…and then i’ll wake up one day and feel differently about the situation and realize the way i’m feeling now was just a phase or something….and then i’d feel horrible for losing it to someone i never really really deeply cared for…
[sorry this is long but i want you to understand where i'm coming from]
For some reason I just want to go ahead and have sex with someone so I can get the initial "losing my virginity" over with so that when i move out of town in the next year it wont be such a big deal for me to start dating guys that want to have sex.
I mean I have morals and standards and I’m not going to just sleep with any and every guy that walks around….
I guess I’m just scared I’m going to regret it.
I always hear that whole thing about how "nobody ever regrets waiting"
…but like i said, i kind of regret waiting because i wish i would have lost it to my last ex.
I know it would have been harder to have lost it to him and then we break up, but….i guess what i’m saying is i already would have crossed that huge important line in my life, that it wouldnt be so hard to go on and live my life…which we all know sex is a part of human nature so that’s a part of our lives and moving on to new partners and stuff….
blaaah. help.
advice please?
Yes
santeria | Feb 04, 2010
Yeah, way to dam long, so I only read the title, anyway hell yeah. its time.
Kevon Juicy | Feb 04, 2010
if you have to ask, the answer is obviously no.
ez80227 | Feb 04, 2010
Wait till ur married
holaaanot | Feb 04, 2010
if you’re asking random strangers on yahoo answers and not asking our heart then no. wait until YOU know the answer honey
FlimsyForks | Feb 04, 2010
dont rush into a big desision so close to when you got your heart broke. give yourself some time. you will find the right man soon
Lucy | Feb 04, 2010
as you wish.its depend on ur feelings.. but use safety precautions before doing that .thanks
Shaahid | Feb 04, 2010
the right one will come- dont look dont plan just let it happen. prepare yourself mentally and with condoms and just wait. in your heart you will know and no offense you wont have to ask on yahoo answers if you should do it because it will feel so right
Gabby | Feb 04, 2010
You always hear that "nobody ever regrets waiting," but you now know that to be a lie. What else has traditional society lied to you about?
If you feel like having sex, then you’re an adult and you should do as you please. Just do it safely by getting him tested, and using condoms and birth control. And don’t be shocked if this interim guy moves on shortly thereafter.
Lola F | Feb 04, 2010
i had sex 7 times in the time it took you to write that. go. now. gogogogogo
cleverity???????? | Feb 04, 2010
whatever throw it away who cares really?
SEAL ROCK | Feb 04, 2010
too long to read but hey…its not about the right time to lose it but if its to the right person. if ur that proud of yourself…when u know ull just know.
Banana Nan | Feb 04, 2010
You are doing nothing wrong………… when you love someone, then have the sex, it will be a better experience for you. Don’t have it just so you can have it… you’ve waited this long, stick with it… I believe you will find it well worth the wait…
c c | Feb 04, 2010
I think you are very smart. and i think that you have already made up your mind. You just need to stick with what you believe because in the end its all you got. Yes that guy probably was the one! but if he did not realize your were the one as well then he lost his chance. maybe it will take months for you to get over him but an even better guy could be right around the corner when you least expect it. Waiting isn’t a game it is a journey.
MattyPuffs | Feb 04, 2010
Every women is different. See I lost my virginity in highschool like most girls and I don’t regret it one little bit. See there may not be a right time and place but there is a right guy. When you kiss him just listen to your heart, that small voice in the back of your head that has no rhyme of reason. If she says yes even once then it’s right. I know that sounds so emotional but it’s true.
katherinep | Feb 04, 2010
youre only 20 dont be stupid!
willfleewhenlosing | Feb 04, 2010
I would look at it as do how you feel at that moment. I have a big thing about virginity. I feel like you do, so it is really up to you. Tell your mind you kept your virginity through high school years and that is a very, very rare and good record. Tell yourself you are an adult now, and when it happens, it happens. I wouldn’t just go out to find soemone to loose your virginity. Date the guy, don’t tell him and if thing go further, at the last moment then tell him so he won’t be dating you just to get you virginity as he is thinking. It will be fine, but you need to go with the flow and your feelings. If you are ready then be ready and never look back because you can’t change it and it shows you have moved into another step in life of adult hood.
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Sean | Feb 04, 2010
You seem like you don’t have a problem meeting guys and if your problem is wanting to have sex there are a million guys out here waiting to oblige. You need to first make up your mind. Do you really want to do this. If not then just keep waiting. If so you need to just date 3-4 months, make sure he is somebody you could see something deeper happening with. Make sure you have real feelings before you do it then give it to him. Just make it special because a good memory will mean something to you as you get older.
dnycuzer | Feb 04, 2010
you seem hung up on your ex and that is clouding your judgment right now. I suggest focusing your time elsewhere, not on guys or sex! If you lose your virginity to the guy you described, i think u will regret it. Be proud of yourself, it doesn’t matter how old you are (and you are VERY young by the way) or how long you’re in a relationship or how many guys you’ve been with. Wait until the "time is right" for you. Right now, it’s all wrong. trust me.
Firecracker | Feb 04, 2010
well..that was a sh*t load to rad. haha
Just so you know who this is coming from, I’m a 17 year old guy(virgin) but I would consider myself very mature and smart on helping people with social problems :).
To me, it sounds like you were REALLY into your ex-BF and now you’re having a very hard time getting over it and you probably will have a hard time for a while. If this new guy doesnt get your mind off your ex at all, then I’m sure he’s not significant enough to lose your virginity with. You should just lay off the Boyfriends for a while until you know for sure you can move on and then find the right guy for you that you know you’ll last with and if you decide to do so, lose your virginity to.
Thats what I gotta say, if you got any question just let me know.
Oh, and my bday is also in April woop wooop!!! haha April 20
Futbolero | Feb 04, 2010
You are obviously in a very high state of emotional turmoil. And clearly on a rebound. Think about it. Why have you waited all of this time anyways. This guy is not going to substitute for your ex. You will regret it later. Plus from his point of view you are, in a sense, using him to fill the void of your ex.
Don’t sell yourself short of what you deserve. Because the the second you settle for less than you deserve you get less than you settled for.
David | Feb 04, 2010
no, dont rush it. this is not time for you to do it. time comes for you to do that in no rush and willing to give it with no doubt.
Louise | Feb 04, 2010
look lemme break it down for you. Im waaaaaaay older than you and I regret NOT sleeping with alot of guys ( or decent amount) I lost mines when I was 15 and I have not had many partners sense then but i wish I had. As you get older experience makes you wiser, now that doesnt mean for you to go out and screw the world but chances are your ex if is having fun with the new girl doing the BUTT! I lost my virginity just to see what it was like. i wasnt in love with the guy when i met him. If you choose to wait heaven is stacking those halos for you !
taffy | Feb 04, 2010
You Must Keep Your Virginity…
You can only lose it to your husband…
Zo3 | Feb 04, 2010
Ok… My advice is that you now date guys and not worry about sex.. I mean many guys do want sex within a month or twos time.. I know I did… but if you dont feel like this person could be the right one dont do it… I say if you find a guy you are willing to marry then wait till then! It really does not matter. Oh and BTW sometimes its nice to have somebody who knows what they are doing a bit when you first start it makes it less awkward. Yeah I dont know what to tell u about the guys you are now dating but yeah… OH ALSO if you think that the reason guys break up with you after a years time is because of sex then you are probably right… you cant say we will have sex eventually and just keep putting it off guys hate that! So.. idk if there is a possiblity your old BF maybe dumped you because of sex than that can be solved =] but yeah i think you get what im saying… I am 17.. I had sex for the first time about 10 months ago… I just dont feel like its a big deal… Do it when u want to and just remember the circumstances and possibilities afterwords… I congratulate you for making it to 20… I couldnt keep myself controlled haha.. No but really I hope this long response for a long question helps out!! Dont ignore this because im 17. I am mature for my age and have 0 enemys not being self centered. So please I hope this helps!
QU3ST10NS | Feb 04, 2010
See that’s the problem with having sex with someone even if you love them. If you think you hurt now that you didn’t have sex with him, it hurts even more when you have sex with someone and you break up because sex pretty much bonds you physically, emotionally, spiritually and mentally. It suppose to do that so that men and women will create a foundation of unconditional love. But everyone these days has become so desensitize to sex and do not have a clue of why God created it. They, like you’re starting to think, that its part of human nature, which it is, but it comes with alot of responsibility of which young people don’t get until their older and they’ve gone through several guys and reach 30/35 and still no one is committed to marrying them. But each breakup after loving, is heartbreaking, making love to someone is the ultimate price you pay for the love you feel for that person. Sex…sex is what animals do, making love is what binds humans to each other, to any children they have, to the foundation of a family and to the standards that they set within that foundation and alot of young men and women are cheapening and cheating themselves out of that by believing they don’t care. But every heartbreak adds more baggage/trust issues then the last. There are guys out there that also believe that its better to wait, you may have to go a bit older, but don’t sell your body b/c you want to forget someone, or he’s cute or whatever. Make love to someone b/c in the end, even if you break up, he was in your heart totally and you know he’s in pain too.
Paris | Feb 04, 2010
believe it or not I read whatever you wrote. Maybe I didn’t understand completely but one thing I do know is that you are better off keeping yourself the way you are (in terms of your virginity). I’m only about 2 years younger than you. Let me tell you, I have not had a single boyfriend nor have i slept with someone. Yes there are temptations but the Holy spirit was with me where ever I was. I’m not trying to go religious on you. I’m just telling you what is truth. the word says to not give your virginity that is unless you are giving it to whom you married. wait until you are married. Do it for the Lord for he is the one who is King.
I personally think you did a good thing by not giving your virginity away to your ex. Can’t you see….. he has left you for someone else which means if you would have given in. The sex would have meant nothing. Maybe only for 5min but after that it was nothing. Who knows? maybe he is your husband. who ever said braking up meant no more. if he is the one than wait until you have married him.
seek first the kingdom of God.
Oh, and heads up.. Jesus is coming back soon!!!
Female | Feb 04, 2010
in short, really short, i few words, no. dont do it.
lol. that seemed to easy. u were right, there is no certain age/w/e. its good you waited at least till this age, because that does show respoinsibility, and its a great thing to be able to truthfully tell your children. one day when they r 17 considering it and thinking they have to, because everyone else has, u can tell ewm this. that u didnt ill u were at least 19.
also, i think that, you should wait. this new guy is a rebound. like, i dont profess to be like a phycologist or nothin… but this guy is definatly a rebound. u dont really care for him, u wouldnt be heartbroken if he left, the main reason u got him, is because he isnt a totall jerk, and, because you have something to focus on. when i was…. i think it was 16 (im 19 now) i had a fling with a girl i liked. it didnt end up working, and we didnt have sex or anything, but we did the foreplay w/e thing, and it got really heated near the end. well then, 2 months after we broke up, i jumped headlong into another relationship, and really threw myself into it. i thoughti was because i REALLY like the girl i was with then, but no it really wasnt. not at first anyway. it was because i had all those feelings, all that energy, all pent up. and this new girl (who had also just ditvhed her bf) was an outlet. a way to vent those feelings by showering them on her. she was a rebound. i got into it with her, not because i really like her (hell, i hardly even knew her) but because of the feelings. eventually, i got to know her more, and it tur4ned out i did really like her. and we dated for a year and did have sex after… 8 months i think.
my point though being, it seems to me this is the new guy u got now. u have all these feelings pent up, with no where to go, all this love meant for him that cant just fade away. so u found this guy, and there was a bit of chemistry, but it feels like so much more. because now, all this love u have pent up as an outlet. u can shower him with it. and i think thats what it is. it feels like more than it is. and, regardless of kids, and w/e, i think that your first time should be special. it should be magical. with a guy you truely care for. not just "some guy". if u can tell already hes not the one, and u even have questions it will make it past 6 months, you probably shouldnt be dating him at all.
when i realized by gf was a rebound, and once i had a chance to get out some of the feelings, i basicly started over. i almost broke up with her, but didnt, because even though she was just a rebound girl, i actually found real feelings for her. so we started from fresh. started back at square one. and we dated like a new couple. and got to know eachother, and all that stuff. and i guess, it was about 2v months before we did that. and by the time 8 months rolled around, i really did love her. so my first time, was with sum1 i really cared for. and it really was awsome. and i was soo glad i did that. waited the 6 extra months and took the time to really get to love her. and i think you would be better off doing that
you seem like the type, who really cares about this. you really want it to be a magical experience with sum1 you really love. you are just getting frustrated because u have all this sexual/love energy with no where to go. well i say, just hold out. a bit longer. find sum1 u really care about. dont blow it on "sum guy" who you dont really care about.trust me, u will be glad u did. and, it will be another story for your kids. XD
good luck. sorry my response was so long, but thats what u get with such a long question. hahah. i hope i helped a bit XD
Doodlez | Feb 04, 2010
i would definitely say wait till its actually someone that you know you will be glad that you gave it to. that is something that is special to you and its a unique experience that should be shared with someone that you wont look back on and they meant nothing to you. it is good that you consider the chance that you might think about this one day and regret that you gave it to a person who didn’t matter to you and who it didn’t really matter to. what i have learned is don’t settle cause eventually you will find someone that you want to share this experience with cause it is special for you and its special to them. that way you aren’t just another girl that they had sex with and lucky for them you were a virgin.
hope i was helpful
Christopher | Feb 04, 2010
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