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Departed, The (2006)
IMDB rating: 8.40
Plot: Two just-graduated officers from Massachusetts State Police Academy follow opposite sides of the law: William Costigan is assigned to work undercover with the Irish mobster Frank Costello to get evidences to arrest him. His true identity is only known by his superiors Dignam and Oliver Queenan. The protegee of Costello, Colin Sullivan, is promoted in the Massachusetts State Police and is the informer of Costello. Each police officer gives his best effort trying to disclose the identity of the other “rat”.
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Directors: Scorsese Martin
Actors: DiCaprio Leonardo,Damon Matt,Nicholson Jack,Sheen Martin,Wahlberg Mark,Anderson Anthony,Winstone Ray,Baldwin Alec,Crime,Drama,Thriller,
am i too calloused ?please,help me understand !convince me,i'm wrong….?
…this scenario……
it’s been gnawing at me for years. i understand rear window tributes re: 9/11
but rear window tributes to deceased relatives,makes me uncomfortable.
don’t get me wrong,it’s not a matter of not caring. if it were me,i can see wanting to memorialize a dearly departed,but on the rear window of my car ????? one day,i’m behind a car w/ one, i read the tribute,and it’s a 3 year old. yes ! i care,it’s sad,absolutely. do i or hundreds of others need to read that on what might otherwise be a good day ? i read one once,the deceased was like 74 years old,they lived a long life,why the mobile tombstone ?
simply put,i don’t get the rear window tributes. it’s got to be me. please help me understand
all i can figure is its a way for some people to get closure. I am also curious as to what other people say about this one… It seems like carrying emotional baggage on your sleeve…
Eli | Feb 04, 2010
Everyone reacts differently to grief. Sometimes you just want to do something! Anything! Maybe rear window falls into that category.
pansyblue | Feb 04, 2010
You sound kind of concieted. Vain. And to be honest a little self centered and heartless. Honestly who gives a shit if a grieving couple wants to memorialize their 3 year old dead child? I agree placing it on a car window is out of the ordinary, but has it occured to you maybe that child died in a car accident? Besides that thought, Death of a loved one does cause people to step out of the box and do what they can to help themselves with the grieving process. And it’s not always a pleasant thing to see but a good reminder of what you have in life. Maybe you could try being a little bit more greatful.
I’m not here to judge, this is all just my own opinion.
Crimewave | Feb 04, 2010
wtf
??? ???? | Feb 04, 2010
I think that all people have different reactions to death, and we all grieve differently.
It’s not callous of you to not want to have to read the tribute on the way to work, and it’s not harsh to admit you wouldn’t do the same, but just remember, you don’t have to read it or worry you should feel personally/emotionally involved.
Just accept that it’s just their own way of dealing with their pain, some want to cry, others don’t, some want to publicise their pain, others keep it a total secret and don’t even want to talk! While you may have a more traditional idea of how to move on (such as a funeral, or private moments between you and your loved ones) they feel less burdened when they do this, maybe they feel their relatives will know how often they think of them because of it, or even that it will teach the public to hate violence? Who knows!
Point is, you’re not doing anything wrong by not wanting to read it, and they aren’t really doing anything wrong by having it there 
Little Birds | Feb 04, 2010
The whole of society is calloused. You are no different than anyone else.
zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz | Feb 04, 2010
Grieving is such an inner and personal thing that it is easy to misunderstand another’s way toward finding peace. For some publicly memoralizing the departed one will make that person feel closer to the one they lost. For others it is frequent trips to the cemetary or a little shrine of sorts within the home. For others, like myself, it is done through repetition of family stories to keep the memory alive. Just keep in mind that the person has experienced a loss and is trying to deal in his/her own way. This is something we all must face eventually, so give them the understanding you would want.
Rebecca W | Feb 04, 2010
I’m with you. Or would be if I’d ever seen one of the things, but hey, knowing they exist is enough to make me want to make a rear window thing myself (like my ex-wife did with a knife and fork, but that’s a different story). Nah.Mine would say something like "I’d like to dig up your dead relative and pull all the rags and stuff out of the inside of it, sew it back up, fill it up with helium and fly it around on a string. And make a movie of it." Dunno if all that would fit in a car’s rear window. Would fit on my ex-wife’s, though.
As for the callouses, I’d have to get a closer look to offer a sensible opinion.
piss on it | Feb 04, 2010
I’ve never seen that before. It’s very unusual. But anyway, I work in a flower shop, and if I’ve learned anything over the last few years, it’s that people grieve in different ways. Sometimes people want us to do some really outrageous things to add to the casket or send to the funeral home, but we always honor their wishes. Sometimes we’re scratching our heads, but we try not to judge someone who’s in mourning.
Strange: making up little tiny arrangements for each one of the grandchildren to take home after services. They were to be set all over the funeral home (about a dozen of them altogether).
Strangest: sending something from the deceased’s pets.
Meagan | Feb 04, 2010
Derek Mosley